What makes a young student decide to join cultism knowing fully well it's repercussions?

 What makes a lady decide to sell her body? What makes unmarried people decide to live as man and wife? What makes one sexually attracted to another of same sex? What makes politicians fail to keep their numerous and sometimes unrealistic campaign promises? What makes lawyers and judges decide to take bribe in order to twist justice?  What makes a person smoke, drink and do drugs despite it's obvious consequences? What makes people bleach and go under the knife to look better? Life they say is full of choices but then what influences our choices? Are the sacrifices and the consequences  worth the stress?

                               Today, I successfully completed an 8 weeks online program on Creative Writing on the Future Learn Open University platform. You might ask what business has a medical student with creative writing? The truth is that writing is my first love, always has been and always will be. When I got into medical school, I thought I would not be able to continue writing, then I started a blog mainly to be able to view my points to the world. At a point, I was not comfortable with my writing, it seemed bland to me,  I wanted more. Since I practically learnt everything I knew about blogging on Google,  I went back to find something, anything, on creative writing. Many frustrating attempts later, I stumbled upon Future Learn and 8 weeks later ( that's two months), I am done ( I could call myself a graduate). 

    The purpose of this post is to encourage you to make good use of the internet , it's God's gift to man. There is absolutely nothing that you would want to learn that you can't find even the slightest bit of online. Stop wasting time on instagram, facebook and snapchat ( I do that a lot though) and develop yourself. Register for an online course, learn a skill, register for programs, advertise your skills, talents and yourself online. Get your ass of that bed and do something. Can you dress well?, fine, it's called style influencing nowadays. Can you make up or tie gele? That seems to be the new oil nowadays. Can you sing or dance or joke? Get your self in front of a camera and do what you do best until you can pay your bills with it. Stop slacking.
But remember, in all you do, make sure people can give glory to God because of you  after all that's the reason for our existence. Now up, up, pick up that phone and make yourself some money.
I love you all. Happy New month sweethearts and have a blessed month ahead.
                                                #Peace

                              
Yesterday, I had an outburst on facebook, I shouldn't have,  but I was so mad and the problem with being angry is that you do not make much sense. I have learnt my lessons and I am sorry for my outburst. 

  
  I was trying to make a point but it did not turn out right. The thing is, everyday on social media platforms we see people, most of whom are getting attention for doing nothing much. Being beautiful or handsome is not our making, it's God's gift to us. The fact that we can afford to wear designers and put on nice make up is because God blessed us and He did that through people- and that includes those who actually made the fabrics, designed the clothes and sew them.
  
  Calling ourselves "self made'' does not really mean we are self made. There must have been parents that tried their best to put us through school. Uncles that chipped in money or words of advice once in a while or just a random person that told us "ji si ike'' at one point or the other that made us put in our best.

Let us believe that there really was nobody at all, nobody ever gave us even pure water on credit after we came back from a job search, tired and feeling hopeless. Nobody ever heard us yawn so bad and gave us food or even #100 Naira and because of all these, we decided to make it and show them- people are still involved.

  Someone must have inspired us at one point or the other, through words or actions. Point is, no man is an island, Bill Gates is very rich but do you think that if everyone in the world decided that they won't work for him that he'll still be so rich?
  
  I was so angry, I made that post about me and that's wrong, it's not about me. It's about that kid on the streets that sells oranges we refuse to patronize because it's not displayed at Shoprite. It's about that young man we won't buy the sandals he made because they are not designers. It's about that young boy who just discovered how to generate electricity for his tiny village, but we won't support him or even share the picture or video of his invention because he doesn't have a tattoo and is not smoking weed with his pants down and singing of how women are just sex objects to him.

  It's about that lady who is juggling between school and make up school and making jewelry to make ends meet that we won't follow or share her work or even like her pictures because she's not made it big enough. It's about that young man who is out there singing out his heart but who would probably not be known anytime soon because he does not have bitches, sex or drugs in his lyrics or there are no bikini clad ladies in his video. It's about everyone out there who is trying in his or her little way to make the world a better place that we most often usually ignore.
   
  Everyone says the "world's not fair'', "nobody owes you nothing'', "don't expect anything from anybody'', but if we do not start owing ourselves we are heading for trouble. If our kids our going to have jobs tomorrow, we have to start creating them now. We need to start supporting indigenous entrepreneurs  no matter their field - fashion designers, hair stylists, furniture makers, artists, make up artists, small business owners, radio personalities, bloggers, book distributors, hawkers, upcoming musicians and actors etc.

Their works may not be perfect at the beginning, but with constant practice and encouragement they  will get there and our words of advice and constructive criticism can go a long way. Government policies may not always be favourable, but we gat to do what we gat to do.
  
  Social media was meant to be a blessing not a curse. Build yourself, build others, show support and encouragement in any little way. That may be the only way we will get out of this economic wilderness anytime soon. Go out of your way to help others, and soon we will reap the benefits. Our kids won't have to go around looking for nonexistent jobs because we've created jobs for them before time.

  The sky is big enough for every star to shine. Help someone shine today, tell yourself you must shine and together we can make it past this recession and create a future that we would be proud of and our kids will thank us for.
#Togetherwecan
#Togetherweshall
#Togetherwestand
Peace#

                               I have over 500 facebook friends and over 300 instagram followers but the truth is that I can't count 10 people who are my friends - true friends not acquaintances or frenemies. During this past christmas holidays, I stumbled upon on of my facebook friends who also happens to be related to me somehow and I smiled at him (unto we are friends) but my guy ignored me, in fact on the first occasion he walked pass, the second time, he drove off. And I was stunned, this guy likes most if not all of my uploads, shouldn't he at least have acknowledged me if not for any reason, for the very fact that we are related? 

  This incident got me thinking, a lot of us have a thousand and one friends on facebook and a million followers on twitter and instagram, but in life we have no friends. We make it a duty to greet our facebook family and instagram family everyday, but we have no real friends to greet. This platforms are collectively called social media but the truth is that they have made us antisocial. A group of friends decide to hangout and all they do is chat with people online while sitting beside people that they have not even greeted. In fact there was an incident where I was sitting close to one of my "friends'' and instead of telling me that she wanted to go, she sent me a whatsapp message that she was going and I was like - why she no kukuma open mouth tell me?
  Social media has given people opportunities to live fake lives and others opportunities to believe in illusions and even want to live illusions. We become instafamous but in reality we are lonely. And the truth is that when the chips are down, we would need real friends to lean on.
In this new year, resolve to make real friends, create a family, get to know your real family well and create a network of friends so strong, then social media will be an avenue to keep in touch with family and friends that are not always around.

                                      One of the characteristics of a new year is the oh so famous new year resolutions. At the beginning of each new year, most people write out or just say what they hope to achieve in the new year, areas of their lives they plan to work on, goals they hope to achieve, new skills to learn, relationships to work on and what have you.But it is no secret that most of these plans and goals seem to be forgotten by the end of January. Some people say there's no need making a new year resolution since they won't keep to it. What is a resolution and why do we more often than not fail to keep to it? 

  A resolution as I've earlier mentioned is a plan,usually written, of what we hope to achieve in any new phase of our lives. According to the dictionary, it is;A statement  of intent, a vow .
Reasons why we fail to keep this vow include but are not limited to;
1. Procrastination; Most of us (I am a good example) have mastered the art of procrastination, we procrastinate everything. We keep saying tomorrow and by the time we realize what's happening it's August and we are yet to start on most of our plans.
2. Laziness; This goes hand in hand with the aforementioned point. Laziness leads to procrastination and procrastination they say is a killer of time.
3. Lack of priority and cluster; Most times we have so many plans for the new year but we fail to prioritize, this leads to confusion and might later lead to us neglecting the entire plan.
4. Unrealistic plans; When our plans are unrealistic, we will find it difficult if not impossible to keep them.
All these being said, it is very important that we commit all that we do and plan to do into God's hands. In this new year let us strive to make realistic plans, prioritize, and avoid procrastination. And God who Himself has promised to teach our hands to make wealth will grant us His grace and favour and bless the works of our hands. Have a blessed year ahead.
                                                   Much love,
                                                       Chizny.

   

   Recently I watched a video of our president, Buhari, say that his wife belongs to the kitchen, the living room and the other room ( I might need a little elaboration on that last one).

   That statement has elicited a lot of response from people,some agreeing with him and others (mostly women) vehemently refusing. The thing is that no matter what you or anyone else says, he has said what he wanted to say.  

  
   Dear woman, whomever you may be, whatever you maybe doing and wherever you may be from,  I want you to know that you are not defined by what anybody (including your husband)  says, you are only defined by what you say and what you believe. Light your spot.

   Your husband says you belong to the kitchen, good and fine, go and learn how to cook well, enter that kitchen and cook so well that he will be willing to give you the head of John the Baptist, then go out there and start a catering business.

   Did he say you belong to the living room? No problem, be so good a host that his friends would always want to come around, then go out there and start an ushering company. Then did he say that you belong to the other room (truth be say I never really understand that one) do whatever is done there very well.
  
   You do not belong to some rooms in the house, you belong to the whole damn house because you are the one that makes it a home. I am not a feminist, because feminists believe in gender equality, I on the other hand believe in gender superiority, the female being the greater.

   Leave all this mouth that the men are running, the fact is that they cannot survive without us, even God saw how hopeless and helpless they were alone and created us to help them. They need us more than we need them.
  
   Stop letting what the men say decide for you, you have a mind of your own, use it. You belong to the house (the entirety of it), you belong to the conference rooms, you belong to the stage, you belong to damn well anywhere you so wish but it all depends on you, stop complaining, stop playing to the background, stop letting what they say determine what you do.

   You are greater (quote me anywhere) and whoever says otherwise should enter the labour room and give birth, or menstruate for a week with the accompanying pain or even think of what to serve as meal for a week. Let us stop debating on where we belong or do not belong, the world is your stage, light your spot.

#say no to child marriage
#say no to female circumcision #support education for the girl child #stop backbiting fellow women that are legally doing well for themselves #you are a queen, believe it
  
   PS, dear future husband, the day you jokingly or seriously open your mouth and say I belong to the kitchen, living room and other room or even say that my work is to take care of you, you will explain to me whether I spent 21years and more of my life studying to become your nanny and you will be doing that outside the house because it won't contain the both of us. Just saying.

  
   Everyone wants to be perfect. Either perfect at something or just generally perfect. We want to have the best there is to have - clothes, shoes, houses, relationships and even children. We all want to be admired, to be looked upon with envy. We want to be 'it', to be invited to all the cool parties and stuff, to have everyone turn in awe when we enter a room, in fact, we want the universe to turn as we please.

   In the quest to attain this feat, we turn those whom we feel already did into god's. Mimicking their every move and literally worshipping the sand on which the step on. The problem with this is that all of this people who we think have everything going for them actually do not. 

  
   The girls want to be like those they see on TV and instagram so the go through insane measures in other to feel that they belong. Living false lives and destroying their bodies in order to get attention. The guys get into shady businesses in order to make money and feel great.

   There is a popular saying that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so let me put it this way, perfection is a matter of perspective. You are special in your own way, all you have to do is believe in yourself and LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE. You do not expect others to love you if you can't love yourself.

   Try new ways to better yourself, make yourself useful to yourself and to those around you. Be compassionate, forgive, give, help others. Make yourself a blessing. Find out new things about you that makes you unique - like that noisy laughter you have that makes you sound like a pig, or the fact that when you fart it smells like a sewage pit just broke (you need to think about flushing your stomach if that's your case. But hey some people are in the hospital because they can't fart), that little dimple on your face that comes out when you smile, whatever it is.

   Trust me, you must have heard this a million times but there actually is someone out there praying to be like you or have what you have. But the most important thing is to accept Jesus Christ into your heart and life. God alone is perfect. You know what happens when you accept Christ? You have peace, you learn to love yourself, to stop being hard on yourself, to accept yourself for who you are not what you think you should be, to forget all the mistakes of the past and focus on becoming better.

   Also, He gives you the spirit of excellence, excellence remember, not perfection. Because that's how He can be glorified in you and draw people to Himself through you. Excellence. The fact that Christ felt you were too dear to Him to spend eternity in hell and so endured a humiliating and shameful death on the cross to save you should be more than enough.

   Remember, even in your imperfections, God saw you and said you are very good, that you are perfect for the plan He has for you. (Gen. 1:31). Because, He made us He knew and still knows that we can't be perfect so He gave us the gift of His spirit and of Grace. His spirit to teach us all things and Grace to help in time of need.


   So my dear, stop trying to be perfect, no human can and besides I think it's kinda overrated. I'll rather you be perfectly imperfect just the way God wants you to be. From a fellow imperfect being, peace.